Essay on Power of Love

1039 Words Oct 7th, 2012 5 Pages
What makes our lives meaningful? A majority of people would say the close relationships we carry in our lives define their meaningful life. We meet a variety of people throughout each day. Sometimes these strangers become friends, sometimes they become romantic relationships, and sometimes they remain strangers. In this paper I will discuss the power of love through attraction, personal bonds, and romance. Many factors impact the type of people we are attracted to. They include physical attractiveness, proximity, reciprocity, and similarity. Research shows that the initial phases of romantic attraction are largely determined by physical appeal (Curran & Ruppel, 2012). People’s perception of their own physical appeal also plays a …show more content…
If you have ever felt like you are giving more in a relationship you were under-benefited, or if you felt like you gave more, you were in an over-benefited relationship. Feeling under-benefited is more distressing and you are likely to be unhappy in that relationship. Over-benefiting can be problematic also; when a person gains rewards they know are undeserved this can cause stress (Feenstra, 2011). In our culture the idea of playing hard to get, or being choosy, is thought of as a way to get liked better. Elaine Walster and colleagues investigated if those who were more selective in their romantic relationship were liked more than those who weren’t, and found there was no greater liking (Feenstra, 2011). They discovered that targeted selectivity is what is most attractive. Interacting with someone who likes only you boosts self-esteem, making this person more attractive. Within our reasons for pursuing relationships is a fundamental human need to belong (Feenstra, 2011). We need frequent positive contact and enduring connections with mutual concern for welfare. The ease, in which we form social bonds, as well as the trouble we have in breaking these bonds, supports our need to belong. These social connections are a source of positive emotions, making us happy. One predictor of happiness and satisfaction with life is social relationships (Feenstra, 2011). Our emotions are closely linked to our

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