Attachment Styles Essay

1386 Words Mar 1st, 2013 6 Pages
Attachment Style and Relationships
PSY 220

Part I:
Robert Sternberg created his triangular theory of love based on three dimensions: passion, intimacy, and commitment. The degree to which a relationship demonstrates these three dimensions determines the type of love relationship. People begin love relationships with those who care for them as children. These early relationships can have a great effect on their adult relationships.
Passion reflects attraction, romance, and sexual desire. A relationship that contains passion would not be a relationship that you would share with you parents or children. This is more to describe a romantic relationship that you share with another person. According to Sternberg (1998) “The key ingredients
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In fact, a relationship may suffer without blissful moments like this. Those little moments can feed the roots of the whole relationship. Without real intimacy in a relationship, the relationship cannot flourish and grow.
Commitment is the decision to continue a long-term caring relationship. Commitment can be any type of relationship shared by anyone. To have a commitment to a person, this basically says that you have made a promise to another person that they will always have you there for them. You can have this type of relationship with your children, your parents, siblings, and any other person on Earth that you have formed a bond with. The willingness to share a part of your life with another person, to let them be who they choose to be is commitment. It is agreeing to mutual learning and understanding. Marriages should be made of commitment as well as intimacy and passion, but for some marriages, they have been based solely one or two of the three dimensions of love, and without all three in play, the marriage is surely doomed to failure.

Part II: I believe an individual’s attachment style can affect the types of love relationships he or she can have, a person can experience three different attachment styles, which are secure, avoidance, and anxiety. The secure attachment style is the most common attachment style. A person who is

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